I feel like we talk less about getting through a bad day. Life actually passes by one day at a time. We interact with people and even ourselves all the time.
Focusing mostly on the big picture, our system teaches us more about skills to be productive, but less on how to build a good relationship or find out what we want.
Some people have a hard time connecting with people and themselves. Like Professor Sean Maguire said, it’s not your fault. He can say it a million times; It’s not your fault. So it should be okay to take your time, but the real world doesn’t wait for anyone. The system is tailored mainly for extroverts and resilient people.
What school never teaches us is how to grow emotionally and to digest life slowly one day at a time. I guess, this is why it took so long for everyone to actually notice the importance of emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is composed of being aware of your emotions and using what you are aware of to navigate the way you act. It also consists of understanding emotions of other people and using what you picked up to effectively interact with them, according to Travis Bradberry.
Unlike your ability to learn which mainly stays constant throughout your life, you can enhance emotional intelligence with practice. Emotional intelligence helps us in our professional life.
An experiment by TalentSmart found out that emotional intelligence is the strongest indicator of performance, out of 33 other job skills. It accounted for a full 58% of success in all types of career.
It is something that influences your every day. The study shows that 90 percent of the top performers were emotionally intelligent. The study claims that people who are highly intelligent in this area make much more money than those who aren’t– an average of $29,000 more annually.
So how do different people boost their emotional intelligence? I asked a few of my friends who are all in the startup scene.
“College was exciting because you could be friends with anyone! I spent a lot of my time meeting people and just talk. I would then talk about myself too. I think this is how I understood myself better.”
“I watched a lot of movies and read a lot of books. It’s a way to learn new culture and mindset and it really gives you time to reflect on yourself and others.”
“My mother. She was a nurse so she spent a lot of her time with people. I would complain to her about work and relationships. She would always give me the best advice ever.”
“I ask a lot of questions to my colleagues at work. I would make suggestions and ask their advice. They would tell me what they wanted and thought and I always asked, ‘Why?’ It helps.”
“My relationship with my parents and teachers from school since young played an important part. They were always understanding and considerate.”